Social media has become an integral part of our daily lives, connecting us to friends, family, and the world at large. It's hard to imagine a time when we didn't have instant access to news, entertainment, and the latest viral trends. However, as our digital connections grow stronger, it's essential to examine the impact of social media on our mental health.
Let's start with the good stuff. Social media has the power to bring people together, break down barriers, and create communities of like-minded individuals. It can foster a sense of belonging and provide support for those who may feel isolated or marginalized. Social media can also be an excellent platform for raising awareness about important issues, such as mental health, and promoting positive change. #SocialMediaForGood
On the flip side, social media can have negative effects on our mental well-being. Constant exposure to seemingly perfect lives and curated images can lead to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and low self-esteem. The fear of missing out (FOMO) can also create anxiety, driving us to constantly check our feeds and compare ourselves to others. And let's not forget about cyberbullying, which can be incredibly damaging to one's mental health.
So, how do we strike a balance between staying connected and protecting our mental health? Here are some ideas:
Maintain a healthy balance between staying connected and protecting your mental health. Be conscious of your social media usage. Setting boundaries on screen time and taking regular breaks helps reduce the potential negative impact on your well-being. Additionally, practicing self-compassion and remembering that social media often (and usually) presents an idealized version of reality can help alleviate feelings of inadequacy, or FOMO.
Prioritize in-person interactions with friends and loved ones, as these connections can foster a sense of belonging and support. Use social media for positive purposes, such as following inspirational and educational accounts to enhance your digital experience and contribute to a healthier online environment.
As we all navigate this ever-evolving world of social media, let's remember that our mental health should always be a top priority. By being aware of our digital habits and taking steps to protect our well-being, we can still enjoy the benefits of social media while minimizing its potential negative impact.


Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS
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Karma, a term often associated with Eastern philosophy and spirituality, represents the idea that our actions, both good and bad, have consequences that shape our experiences and the world around us. In essence, karma is the belief that what goes around comes around, and the energy we put out into the universe ultimately returns to us.

While "karma" is a unique term rooted in Eastern philosophy, several words and concepts in various languages and cultures share some aspects of its meaning:
Cause and effect: This refers to the relationship between actions and their consequences, a central aspect of karma.
Reciprocity: The idea that people should treat others as they would like to be treated, and that they can expect a response in kind.
Justice: The notion of fairness and accountability for one's actions, which are also present in the concept of karma.
Boomerang effect: This expression is used to describe the idea that what goes around comes around, a key aspect of karma.
What you sow, so shall you reap: A common English idiom that captures the essence of karma, emphasizing that our actions determine the outcomes we experience.
Divine retribution: In many religious traditions, this concept refers to the idea that a higher power will eventually bring justice by rewarding good deeds and punishing wrongdoing, reflecting the principle of cause and effect found in karma.
Karma, derived from the Sanskrit word for "action," refers to the principle of cause and effect. Simply put, our actions have consequences, and the energy we generate through our thoughts, intentions, and behaviors will eventually manifest in our lives, influencing our experiences and relationships.
Karma as a Tool for Letting GoUnderstanding the concept of ‘karma’ can be a powerful tool for letting go especially when dealing with difficult individuals who cause harm due to their own emotional turmoil. By recognizing the cyclical nature of energy, we can learn to release the emotional burden of others' actions and trust that balance will be restored in its own time.

The Role of Physics in Understanding Karma
Physics offers insights that support the concept of karma. For instance, Newton's Third Law states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Similarly, karma suggests that the energy we put out into the universe will return to us in some form. In addition, the Law of Conservation of Energy posits that energy can neither be created nor destroyed; rather, it transforms from one form to another. This concept aligns with the idea that our actions create ripples of energy that eventually find their way back to us.

Support from Religions
Various religious and spiritual traditions, including Christianity, Judaism, and Buddhism, echo the concept of karma, providing a rich tapestry of support for the notion that the universe responds to our actions.

• Christianity: The Bible contains several verses that support the idea of karma. Galatians 6:7 states, "Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows." Additionally, the Golden Rule in Matthew 7:12 encourages individuals to treat others as they would like to be treated, emphasizing the idea that our actions affect others and, in turn, ourselves.
• Judaism: The principle of "middah k’neged middah," meaning "measure for measure," is found in the Talmud. This concept conveys that one's actions will be reciprocated in kind, emphasizing the importance of ethical conduct and personal responsibility.
• Buddhism: The Buddha's teachings center on the law of karma, asserting that our actions, or karma, shape our experiences in this and future lives. By understanding the interconnectedness of all things and the effects of our actions, we can work to alleviate suffering and cultivate inner peace.

Embracing Karma for Mental Wellness
By embracing karma as a guiding principle, we can cultivate mental resilience and emotional well-being. Instead of dwelling on the actions of others, we can focus on our own thoughts, intentions, and behaviors, ensuring that we contribute positively to the universal energy exchange. In doing so, we create a space for healing, growth, and inner peace, knowing that the universe/principles of nature is balancing the scales.

The concept of karma offers a powerful framework for individuals dealing with difficult people. Various philosophies, principles of nature and physics, and religious/spiritual traditions, including Christianity, Judaism, and Buddhism, lend support to this idea, reinforcing the notion that our actions have consequences and that, ultimately, we reap what we sow. By focusing on our own growth and trusting in the universe's balancing act, we can let go of emotional burdens and cultivate a more peaceful, harmonious existence.

By Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS

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​Embracing Integrity and Moral Principles 
Integrity in someone's character refers to the quality of being honest, upright, and steadfast in adhering to strong moral and ethical principles. A person with integrity consistently acts in alignment with their values, beliefs, and commitments, even in challenging situations or when faced with temptation. Integrity involves possessing a sense of wholeness and unity in one's character, where words, actions, and beliefs are congruent. Individuals with integrity are reliable, trustworthy, and exhibit a strong sense of responsibility and accountability for their actions. They have the courage to stand by their convictions and maintain a clear distinction between right and wrong. Ultimately, integrity serves as a guiding force that enables a person to lead an authentic and principled life.
In the world of therapy, integrity holds significant importance. We believe that integrity is a guiding force that enables us to serve our clients with the utmost respect and care while maintaining a high level of professional ethics.
Integrity in therapy is not only about adhering to strict ethical guidelines but also about integrating empathy and compassion into our practice. We understand that our clients come to us seeking guidance, support, and a safe space to explore their thoughts and emotions. By embodying integrity, we strive to create an environment where our clients can feel secure and confident in our ability to provide effective and ethical care.
One way we uphold integrity is by actively listening to our clients and offering guidance without imposing our personal beliefs or judgments. We recognize that each client is unique, and we tailor our approach to meet their individual needs while staying true to our moral and ethical principles. This combination of integrity, empathy, and compassion enables us to build a foundation of trust with our clients.
For example, when working with a client struggling with a difficult decision, we help them explore their options without pushing them toward a specific choice. Instead, we use empathy and compassion to guide them in discovering their own path forward. By doing so, we demonstrate integrity by respecting their autonomy while providing the support they need.
In addition to our client-focused approach, integrity is also essential in how we operate as a therapy office. We ensure that our therapists undergo continuous professional development and adhere to the ethical guidelines set forth by our professional organizations. This commitment to maintaining the highest standards of care reflects our dedication to integrity in every aspect of our practice.
Integrity serves as a foundational principle that shapes our interactions and behaviors when we embody it in our daily lives. By aligning our beliefs with the core aspects of our character, we tap into a source of inner strength that goes beyond mere willpower. This integration allows us to act from a place of genuine authenticity, creating more meaningful connections and fostering personal growth.

By Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS

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Grooming is a complex process in which an abuser manipulates a vulnerable person by building trust and emotional connection, with the ultimate goal of exploitation. This can happen to anyone. The signs can be right in front of you, but without knowing what they are, grooming can continue, causing devastating effects. The victims can be of any age, and they're often children, teenagers, or adults who are susceptible due to their circumstances.
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The abuser is typically someone familiar to the victim, which makes the act even more insidious.
While grooming is often associated with sexual abuse, it's essential to recognize that it can also lead to physical abuse, financial exploitation, and emotional manipulation. The subtlety of grooming behaviors makes them difficult to detect, and they frequently appear as ordinary interactions, adding to the challenge of identifying and defining them.
In recent times, however, the term "grooming" has been misused and misrepresented, particularly in political and social discourse. Extremist groups have incorrectly accused members of the LGBTQIA+ community and their allies of grooming children through educational materials, books, events, and campaigns. These false accusations not only perpetuate homophobia and transphobia but also create unnecessary panic and fear.
Such misinformation diverts attention from the real issue at hand: identifying and preventing actual cases of manipulation and exploitation. It also undermines the experiences of genuine victims and hinders the progress of addressing the problem effectively. To support victims and protect vulnerable individuals, we need to understand the true nature of grooming and challenge the misconceptions surrounding it.

Stages of Grooming:
Most of the time, when a child is sexually abused, it's by someone they already know and trust, like a family member, friend, teacher, or community leader. Grooming has several steps:

1. Finding a victim: The abuser looks for a child who might be vulnerable, like someone who doesn't have a lot of supervision or support.
2. Establishing access and trust: They get close to the child by acting like a friend and listening to their problems. They might also try to get close to the child's family or community.
3. Satisfying a need: The abuser gives the child something they might be missing, like attention, understanding, or a sense of belonging.
4. Isolating the victim: They find ways to be alone with the child, like offering to take them places.
5. Keeping the relationship a secret: The abuser makes sure the child won't talk about what's happening by using their feelings, fear of being blamed, or threats.
6. Abusing the victim: The abuser slowly increases physical contact, activities, or conversations to make it easier to abuse the child, often sexually.
7. Controlling the victim: Once the abuse starts, the abuser works to keep control over the child and make sure they won't tell anyone.

Grooming can also happen online, where it's easier for abusers to hide their real identities and target kids through social media or gaming sites. They might use fake profiles, act like they're the same age, and use flattery or bribery to gain trust. Then they manipulate the child into sending explicit content or having sexual conversations. They might even threaten to share the content with the child's family or friends to keep them quiet. In many countries, grooming is a crime. In the US, for example, it's considered enticement and can lead to fines and up to 20 years in prison.

Characteristics of a groomer:
It's super important for parents, caregivers, teachers, and anyone else who works with kids to know the signs of grooming. Spotting these signs early on can help protect children from abuse. Here are some red flags to look out for that might indicate perpetrator or grooming behavior from an adult:

1. The adult seems way too interested in a child and wants to spend a lot of time alone with them.
2. They give the child special treatment, like offering to drive them places or giving them gifts.
3. They're friends with the family but seem more interested in being close to the child than the adults.
4. They show favoritism towards the child.
5. They do things like bathe the child, walk in on them changing, or talk about sexual topics with them.
6. They make inappropriate comments about the child's body or appearance.
7. They play games with the child that involve physical contact.
8. They take pictures of the child in their underwear or bathing suits.
9. They share sexual images with the child.
   
   

Signs that someone is being groomed:
If you notice these signs, it's important to take action and get help. Now let's look at some signs that a child might be a victim of abuse:

1. They talk about or seem interested in sexual topics more than usual. Inappropriate sexual behavior or knowledge: Children who are being groomed may exhibit sexually explicit behavior or possess knowledge beyond their age, which could be a result of exposure to inappropriate content or experiences.
2. They keep secrets or seem quieter than normal. Secretive communication: If a child starts receiving unexplained calls, texts, or messages and becomes defensive when asked about them, it could be a sign of grooming.
3. Changes in behavior or mood: Sudden shifts in a child's mood or behavior, such as becoming withdrawn, anxious, or aggressive, can indicate that something is wrong.
4. They don't want to be alone with certain people. Or the opposite: Spending time with someone older or unknown: If a child starts spending unusual amounts of time with an older person or someone you don't know, it may be cause for concern.
5. They spend a lot of time by themselves.
6. Reluctance to discuss certain people or situations: Grooming victims often feel confused, guilty, or scared and might avoid talking about the person manipulating them or the situations they've been put in.
7. They don't want to change clothes or take baths.
8. They act younger than their age, like sucking their thumb or wetting the bed.
9. They suddenly show strange bathroom or grooming behaviors, such as urninating or defecating in containers and hiding them.
10. They're way too obedient or well-behaved.
11. They act out sexually in inappropriate ways.
12. Changes in their eating or sleeping habits.
13. Changes in personal hygiene or appearance: A sudden decline in personal care or an unusual interest in dressing more maturely can be signs of grooming.
14. They seem sad, aggressive, or worried a lot.
15. Emotional distress or changes in self-esteem: Grooming can have a significant impact on a child's mental health, leading to symptoms such as depression, low self-esteem, or self-harm.
16. Unusual interest in or knowledge of substances: In some cases, groomers might introduce substances like drugs or alcohol to a child to make them more compliant.
17. They have health issues like stomachaches or headaches that can't be explained.
18. Unexplained absences or a sudden lack of interest in school or extracurricular activities: Grooming can lead to a child withdrawing from their usual activities and spending more time under the influence of the abuser.
19. They do worse in school than before.
20. They hurt themselves on purpose.
21. They use drugs or alcohol.
22. They have signs of physical abuse, like bruises or bleeding.
23. Unexplained gifts or possessions: Grooming often involves showering the victim with gifts, money, or other incentives to gain their trust and silence.
24. They have sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Child sexual abuse can really mess up a person's mental health and lead to problems like anxiety, depression, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), drug abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior, unstable relationships, trust issues, fear of intimacy, and sexual problems. It's scary, but around half of child sexual abuse victims might be abused again in the future. So, if you see any of these signs, please reach out for help and support the child. It's essential to take action and seek help from professionals, such as child protection services, mental health experts, or law enforcement. It's always better to be cautious and proactive in ensuring the child's safety and well-being.
See our resources page for other sources of help.

By Deborah Ashway, LCMH, LCAS
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