Some mornings don’t come easy. The world feels quiet but heavy, and even the simplest routines feel like uphill work.

And yet, somewhere in that resistance between
brushing your teeth and noticing the light through the blinds, there’s an invitation. It whispers, What if this, too, is part of the journey?

In therapy and in life, it can be easy to think we’re moving toward a single destination—peace, happiness, or clarity—as if once we arrive, the struggle will fall away. But healing is not a straight line. It's not a formula. It’s a relationship with yourself that deepens over time, especially when you show up on the days you’d rather stay hidden.

​This process, often called psychological flexibility, is at the heart of lasting mental
health. It refers to our ability to stay present and open to our internal experiences, even the uncomfortable ones, while still taking action aligned with our values (Kashdan &
Rottenberg, 2010, p. 866). That means allowing sadness to exist without immediately
needing to fix it. It means noticing anxiety without letting it run the show. It means trusting
that even confusion or fear might be part of something unfolding in you—something wise, something real.
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The challenge is that our culture often treats happiness as the end goal, something to chase, hold, and preserve. But happiness, like all emotions, is fleeting. And that is exactly what makes it beautiful. Its impermanence reminds us that life moves. Emotions shift. Meaning is made not by capturing perfection, but by learning how to be in each moment
fully.

In Japanese philosophy, there’s a concept called Wabi-Sabi, the appreciation of what is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. It reminds us that beauty doesn’t live in
flawless moments but in the cracked ones we choose to keep living through. Healing, too, is not about erasing the past but honoring the golden seams we form when we grow through it. Much like the art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, our own emotional fractures can become a source of deeper strength and meaning—not something to hide, but something to revere.

As Viktor Frankl once noted, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” (Frankl, 1985, p. 112). But change does not mean becoming someone else. It means returning to the self you may have had to hide. It means honoring your own pace. Healing is less about becoming new and more about becoming honest. This honesty, this willingness to be with what is, doesn’t mean we let pain run wild. It means we befriend it so it no longer has to roar to be heard. In fact, research on self-
Compassion shows that those who learn to meet their struggles with kindness, not criticism, experience less anxiety and depression and greater emotional resilience (Neff, 2003, p. 226).

So if this morning felt hard, or messy, or just quiet in a way that made you ache a little good. That’s not failure. That’s aliveness. That’s a nervous system trying to relearn safety. That’s a heart making room for something unfamiliar. That’s growth you may not see yet. Healing, after all, is not always a feeling. Sometimes it’s a decision: to show up again, to keep walking, to stay gentle. Because happiness isn’t the goal. Being here, now, is.

by Dr. Elvin Peace

References
 Frankl, V. E. (1985). *Man’s search for meaning* (Rev. ed.). Washington Square Press.
https://archive.org/details/manssearchformea00fran_0
 Kashdan, T. B., & Rottenberg, J. (2010). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect
of health. *Clinical Psychology Review, 30*(7), 865–878.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2010.03.001
 Neff, K. D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-
compassion. *Self and Identity, 2*(3), 223–250. https://self-compassion.org/wp-
content/uploads/2015/06/Neff2003.pdf

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Finding the right therapist can be a deeply personal and vulnerable journey, and it’s one that plays a crucial role in the success of your mental health and overall well-being. Whether you're navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, or simply looking for guidance through life’s challenges, the therapist you choose can significantly impact the progress you make. In this post, we’ll help guide you through the process of selecting the right therapist, so you can feel confident in your decision and begin the path toward healing and self-discovery.
Understand Your Needs and PreferencesThe first step in choosing the right therapist is to have a clear understanding of what you're looking for. Ask yourself: What are the challenges you’re hoping to address? What would you like to accomplish or overcome? Are you seeking therapy for something specific like relationship issues, childhood trauma, or work-related stress? Some individuals need help managing day-to-day emotions, while others may require more specialized support for mental health conditions such as OCD or PTSD. Knowing your needs will help you narrow down the options, so you're not overwhelmed by the many types of therapy available.
Another important factor to consider is your preferences around the therapist's approach and style. Do you feel more comfortable with someone who offers a structured, solution-focused approach, or would you prefer a therapist who uses a more conversational, empathetic method? Take note of the things that matter most to you—whether it's gender, age, cultural background, or language—and factor them into your decision.
Consider the Therapist’s Credentials and SpecializationsTherapists come with a variety of qualifications, and it’s important to ensure they have the right credentials to meet your needs. In most cases, a licensed therapist will have a degree in psychology, social work, or counseling, and may hold certifications in specific therapeutic techniques. These can include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), depending on what you're looking to focus on in therapy.
Additionally, therapists often specialize in certain areas. For example, some may be more experienced in helping with anxiety and depression, while others may specialize in family therapy, addiction recovery, or trauma. Make sure to check their areas of expertise to ensure they align with your goals.
Evaluate the Therapist’s Approach to TherapyEvery therapist has their own unique approach to therapy, and it's crucial that it resonates with you. Some therapists are more directive and structured, while others take a more collaborative or client-centered approach. This can influence the dynamics of your sessions and your comfort level with the process.
It can be helpful to inquire about their therapeutic style during your first consultation or introductory session. Do they take a more active role in guiding the conversation, or are they focused on listening and asking open-ended questions? Are they focused on providing specific tools and techniques, or do they prefer a more reflective, explorative approach? The answer to these questions can give you a sense of whether the therapist’s approach aligns with your needs and preferences.
Trust Your Gut and Assess the FitTherapy is most effective when you feel safe, heard, and understood. That means the relationship you build with your therapist is key. During your first few sessions, pay attention to how you feel. Do you feel comfortable opening up to them? Do they listen attentively and without judgment? Are you able to establish a sense of trust and rapport?
It’s natural to feel a little nervous in the beginning, but the right therapist will create a welcoming and supportive environment that helps ease any discomfort. If something feels off, or if you're not connecting with your therapist, it’s okay to seek someone else. Feeling understood and supported is essential to making meaningful progress.
Consider Availability and CostPractical considerations like availability, location, and cost are also important to keep in mind. Can the therapist accommodate your schedule, or do their office hours work well with yours? Are they conveniently located, or do they offer virtual sessions if you prefer that option?
When it comes to cost, therapy can be an investment, and it's important to find a therapist whose fees fit within your budget. Many therapists offer sliding scale fees based on income or accept insurance, so be sure to inquire about payment options upfront.
Commit to the ProcessOnce you’ve found a therapist that feels like a good fit, it’s time to commit to the process. Therapy is a journey, and while it can bring up challenging emotions, it’s an important step toward personal growth. Be open to the process and remember that building a strong therapeutic relationship takes time. As you work together, trust will grow, and you’ll have the opportunity to make meaningful changes in your life.
You’re Ready to BeginChoosing the right therapist for your needs is a personal decision that requires thoughtful consideration. By understanding your goals, evaluating credentials and approaches, and trusting your intuition, you can find a therapist who will guide you on your path to healing and self-discovery. If you’re ready to start the journey, don’t hesitate to reach out to a trusted therapist at our practice. We’re here to support you every step of the way!

Brooklyn Davis, LCMHCA, LCAS


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