The Problem With Too Much Positivity

Toxic Positivity
We know this time of year can be challenging, especially navigating family. Let's focus on something we've all encountered at some point: toxic positivity. Being positive is generally not a bad thing; in fact, we encourage it. But what happens when that positivity turns toxic? And how does positivity turn toxic? It is possible to have too much, albeit well-intentioned, misguided optimism.
You know that family member or friend who seems to have a perpetually sunny disposition, radiating positivity like a glitter bomb? Sure, it sounds great in theory, but let's get real! Let's explore why toxic positivity can be a bit like trying to put out a fire with gasoline.
Ever had a rough day and needed a venting session? Toxic positivity might rear its head with a dismissive comment like, "Cheer up! It could be worse!" Thanks, Captain Obvious, but that's not exactly what I needed to hear. It's like telling someone with a sprained ankle, "At least it's not a broken leg." Sure, it's true, but it doesn't make the pain magically disappear. The only thing statements like these do is invalidate your feelings.
Then there's the classic, "Look on the bright side!" While you might appreciate the sentiment, the truth is sometimes life hands you a bag of lemons, and you just want a moment to acknowledge the sourness. Pushing someone to always see the silver lining might inadvertently trivialize their struggles, not to mention contribute to repression and emotional imbalance.
And let's not forget the infamous, "You should be grateful!" Gratitude is great, but implying that someone's feelings are invalid because they're not counting their blessings at that very moment? That's like telling someone drowning in a stormy sea to be grateful for the fresh air.
We all encounter struggles in life. In fact, struggles are a necessary part of life, without which there would be no emotional or spiritual growth. There would be no contrast. Life would get boring very quickly.
In our journey to promote positivity, we often forget the importance of holding space for the messy, complicated emotions that make us human. Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns, and pretending that it is can leave people feeling isolated in their struggles.
The key is finding that delicate balance between encouraging a positive mindset and acknowledging the stormy weather. It's about honoring difficulties, understanding that it's okay not to be okay, and allowing ourselves and others the freedom to experience the full spectrum of emotions.
People who tend to act with an over-the-top positive affect run the risk of disingenuous and superficial connections with others and, in fact, with life itself. They are more likely to be bored and seek quick fixes, with no genuine or long-lasting fulfillment. A deeper connection comes only from authenticity. Nobody's life is perfect.
So, my friends, let's be mindful of our positivity. Let's offer support that doesn't dismiss, validate without judgment, and create a space where people feel heard, even when the world feels like a bit of a dumpster fire.
In the grand dance of life, sometimes we need a slow waltz through the challenges rather than a relentless, upbeat jig. After all, it's in those difficult moments that we discover our resilience and strength. So here's to embracing the messy, acknowledging the tough stuff, and navigating the maze of life with authenticity and compassion. Cheers to a balanced emotional diet and a genuine understanding of the human experience!


By Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS

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