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9 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

4/19/2024

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition characterized by patterns of
intense emotions, unstable relationships, distorted self-image, impulsivity, and difficulty in
regulating emotions.


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Here are some key aspects of what it means to have BPD:
1. Intense Emotional Instability: People with BPD often experience intense and rapidly
shifting emotions.
 They may feel emotions more strongly than others and have difficulty
regulating these emotions, leading to frequent mood swings.

2. Unstable Relationships: Individuals with BPD may have unstable and tumultuous
relationships, marked by alternating between idealizing and devaluing others. They may
fear abandonment and struggle with feelings of emptiness and loneliness.

3. Distorted Self-Image: People with BPD may have an unstable sense of self and
struggle with a chronic feeling of emptiness. They may have difficulty understanding who
they are or what they want in life.

4. Impulsivity: Impulsivity is a common trait in BPD, leading individuals to engage in risky
behaviors such as reckless driving, substance abuse, binge eating, or unsafe sexual
practices. These behaviors may provide temporary relief from emotional pain but can
have negative consequences in the long run.

5. Self-Harming Behaviors: Some individuals with BPD engage in self-harming behaviors
such as cutting, burning, or hitting themselves. These behaviors are often used as a
coping mechanism to regulate intense emotions or to feel something when experiencing
emotional numbness.

6. Fear of Abandonment: Individuals with BPD may have an intense fear of
abandonment, leading to clingy or possessive behavior in relationships. They may go to
great lengths to avoid real or perceived abandonment, even if it means sacrificing their
own needs or values.

7. Chronic Feelings of Emptiness: Many people with BPD experience a chronic sense of
emptiness or inner void, regardless of their external circumstances. This feeling of
emptiness can contribute to impulsivity, self-destructive behaviors, and difficulties in
forming stable relationships.

8. Dissociation: Some individuals with BPD may experience dissociative symptoms, such
as feeling disconnected from themselves or their surroundings, or experiencing periods
of amnesia.

9. Splitting: 
Splitting is a psychological defense mechanism commonly associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), characterized by polarized thinking and an inability to see the middle ground. Individuals who experience splitting may oscillate between idealizing and devaluing people, situations, or themselves, leading to intense and unstable emotions, behaviors and relationships.

It is important to note that BPD is a complex and multifaceted condition, and symptoms can vary
widely from person to person. Additionally, individuals with BPD may also struggle with co-
occurring mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, or substance abuse.
If you believe you may have BPD or any other mental health condition, it's crucial to seek help
from a qualified mental health professional for an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment.
Treatment options for BPD typically include psychotherapy, medication, and support groups,
and can be highly effective in managing symptoms and improving quality of life.

By Tandy Hale, LCMHC, ATR-BC, NCC


#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #MentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation #Resilience #SelfAwareness #StigmaFree #WellnessJourney #SupportiveCommunity #Hope
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The Unstoppable Force of a Determined Heart

3/15/2024

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The power of a determined heart is profound and often transformative.
When someone possesses a determined heart, it means they have strong resolve, resilience, and unwavering commitment to their goals or beliefs, regardless of obstacles or setbacks. Here are some key aspects of the power of a determined heart:
1. Persistence: A determined heart enables individuals to persist in the face of challenges,
setbacks, and failures. Instead of giving up when faced with adversity, they push forward with perseverance and resilience.
2. Courage: Determination often requires courage to step outside one's comfort zone, take risks, and confront fears. A determined heart allows individuals to overcome their fears and doubts, empowering them to pursue their aspirations with bravery and conviction.
3. Focus: A determined heart keeps individuals focused on their goals, even amidst distractions or temptations. It helps them prioritize tasks, stay organized, and maintain clarity of purpose, leading to more effective and efficient efforts.
4. Resilience: Resilience is a key component of a determined heart. It enables individuals to
bounce back from setbacks, learn from failures, and adapt to changing circumstances without losing sight of their objectives.
5. Inspiration: The determination of one person can inspire others. When others witness someone with a determined heart relentlessly pursuing their goals, it can motivate them to overcome their own challenges and strive for success.
6. Achievement: Ultimately, the power of a determined heart lies in its ability to drive individuals toward achieving their dreams and aspirations. Whether it's personal growth, academic success,​ career advancement, or social change, a determined heart can propel individuals to accomplish remarkable feats.
In essence, the power of a determined heart lies in its ability to fuel persistence, courage, focus, resilience, inspiration, and ultimately, achievement. It's a force that drives individuals to push beyond their limits, overcome obstacles, and reach their full potential.

By Tandy Hale, ATR-BC, LCMHC, NCC

#DeterminedHeart #Perseverance #SuccessTips #Resilience #Motivation #AchieveYourGoals #LifeTransformation #InspirationalStories #Empowerment #HeartPower #OvercomeObstacles #MindsetMatters #PersonalGrowth #PositiveThinking #PassionatePursuit #StayFocused #UnstoppableForce #BelieveInYourself #LifePurpose #SuccessDriven #MentalStrength #PositiveVibes #LimitlessPotential #InnerStrength #StayStrong

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What is Moral Injury?

2/13/2024

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Moral injury occurs when an individual experiences social, psychological, and
spiritual harm due to a betrayal of their core values. Here are some ways in which
moral injury can happen:
1. Acts of Commission: These occur when a person actively engages in behaviors that
conflict with their moral beliefs. For example, a soldier who must shoot an enemy
combatant may experience moral injury if they later discover personal details about the
deceased, such as seeing a picture of the dead man’s children 1 .
2. Acts of Omission: Moral injury can also result from failing to prevent harm or
wrongdoing. Imagine a situation where someone witnesses an injustice but feels
powerless to intervene. The guilt and shame from not taking action can lead to moral
injury 2 .
3. Acts of Betrayal: This type of moral injury often involves leaders or authority figures.
When those in positions of trust fail to protect their subordinates or violate ethical
norms, it can profoundly wound a person’s conscience. For instance, doctors facing
ethical dilemmas within the healthcare system may experience moral injury when
business interests conflict with patient care 1 .
4. High-Stakes Situations: Anyone caught in a life-or-death scenario with no good
choices can suffer moral injury. This includes therapists, human rights workers, first
responders, and survivors of abuse or violence. Even doctors, faced with decisions that
impact patients’ survival, may grapple with moral conflicts 13 .
In the military context, moral injury is widespread and linked to anxiety, depression,
PTSD severity, and suicide risk. Over 90% of veterans with PTSD exhibit symptoms of
moral injury, emphasizing its significant impact 1 . Similarly, doctors today face moral
dilemmas due to conflicts between healthcare practices and their deepest values 14 .


Remember that moral injury arises from circumstances, not character, and it can fundamentally alter a person’s worldview and ability to trust others.
TIPS for healing
Healing moral injury is a complex and deeply personal process, often requiring time,
effort, and support. Here are some tips that may help:
  • Seek Professional Help: Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor experienced in treating moral injury. They can provide guidance and tools tailored to your specific situation.
  • 2. Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on the events or experiences that have caused moral injury. Journaling or engaging in introspective practices like meditation can help you process your feelings and thoughts.
  • 3. Seek Understanding: Try to understand the circumstances that led to the moral injury, including the choices and actions of others involved. This can help contextualize your feelings and promote empathy, forgiveness, or acceptance.
  • 4. Connect with Others: Seek support from trusted friends, family members, or members of your community who can offer empathy, understanding, and companionship as you navigate your healing journey.
  • 5. Engage in Meaningful Activities: Participate in activities that align with your values and bring you a sense of purpose and fulfillment. This can help rebuild a sense of meaning and identity that may have been affected by the moral injury.
  • 6. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself and recognize that experiencing moral injury is a normal response to challenging situations. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding as you work through your feelings.
  • 7. Explore Spiritual or Religious Practices: For some individuals, spiritual or religious practices can provide comfort, guidance, and a sense of connection to something greater than themselves.
  • 8. Advocate for Change: If your moral injury stems from systemic issues or injustices, consider getting involved in advocacy or activism efforts aimed at addressing the underlying causes and promoting positive change.
  • 9. Set Boundaries: Establishing healthy boundaries can help protect your emotional well- being and prevent further harm. This may involve distancing yourself from triggering situations or individuals, setting limits on your involvement in certain activities, or seeking support in enforcing boundaries.
  • 10. Give Yourself Time: Healing from moral injury is a process that takes time and patience. Be patient with yourself and trust that with time and effort, you can find healing and peace.

By Tandy Hale, LCMHC, ATR-BC, NCC 
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Quieting the Inner Critic: Self-Compassion and the Journey to Inner Peace

1/6/2024

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The inner critic is that pesky voice inside our heads that often focuses on our flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings.  It's like having a harsh judge constantly evaluating and criticizing our thoughts, actions, or appearance.  This inner voice can be relentless, causing self-doubt, lowering self-esteem, and sometimes leading to anxiety or perfectionism.  Managing the inner critic involves learning to recognize and reframe negative self-talk or limiting beliefs and replace them with more realistic and compassionate self-talk.


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Challenging the inner critic:
  1. Awareness: Start by becoming aware of your inner dialogue.  Notice when negative thoughts or self-criticisms arise.  Awareness is the first step toward challenging them.
  2. Question the Validity: When negative thoughts emerge, ask yourself if they're based on evidence or if they're assumptions or self-imposed beliefs.  Challenge their validity and ask for proof.
  3. Reality Check: Consider if you would speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself.  Often, we're more critical of ourselves than we are of others.  Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend.
  4. Replace Negative Thoughts: When a negative thought arises, consciously replace it with a positive or more realistic one.  For instance, if you think, "I'll never succeed," replace it with, "I am capable and learning from each experience."
  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during difficult times.  Practice self-compassion by acknowledging your struggles without judgment.
  6. Challenge Perfectionism: Recognize that perfection is unrealistic.  Embrace the idea that mistakes are opportunities for growth and learning.
  7. Reframe with Evidence: When the inner critic arises, counter it with evidence of your strengths, past successes, or times when you've overcome challenges.  Remind yourself of your capabilities.
  8. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Shift your focus from achieving perfection to making progress.  Celebrate small victories and acknowledge the effort you put into your endeavors.
  9. Seek Support: Share your struggles with a supportive friend, family member, or therapist.  Sometimes an outside perspective can provide insights and encouragement.
  10. Mindfulness and Meditation: Engage in mindfulness practices to observe your thoughts without attachment.  Meditation can help you develop awareness and detach from negative thought patterns.
Challenging the inner critic is an ongoing process that requires patience and persistence.  Over time, with conscious effort, you can reframe negative self-talk and cultivate a more positive and empowering inner dialogue.

By
Tandy Hale, LCMHC, ATR-BC, NCC

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Fearless Living: 12 steps to Conquer Your Fears

11/13/2023

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How to address your fears
Addressing fears involves a combination of self-awareness, understanding, and practical strategies. Here
are some steps you can consider:
 1. Identify and Understand Your Fears: 
 Clearly define what you are afraid of. Understanding the specific nature of your fear is
the first step in addressing it.
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2. Acknowledge Your Fear:
 Accept that it's okay to feel fear. Don't judge yourself for being afraid. Acknowledging
your fear is a crucial step in overcoming it.
3. Explore the Root Cause:
 Try to identify the underlying causes of your fear. Sometimes fears are linked to past
experiences, traumas, or irrational thoughts. Understanding the root cause can help you
address the issue more effectively.
4. Challenge Negative Thoughts:
 Analyze and challenge negative thoughts related to your fear. Ask yourself if these
thoughts are based on facts or assumptions. Often, fears are fueled by irrational
thoughts.
5. Gradual Exposure:
 Gradual exposure to the source of fear can be helpful. Start with small, manageable
steps to face your fear. As you become more comfortable, gradually increase the level of
exposure.
6. Positive Visualization:
 Use positive visualization techniques. Imagine yourself successfully facing and
overcoming your fear. This can help rewire your brain to associate the fear with positive
outcomes.
7. Develop Coping Strategies:
 Create a set of coping strategies for when you encounter your fear. This might include
deep breathing, positive affirmations, or other relaxation techniques.
8. Seek Support:
 Talk to friends, family, or a mental health professional about your fears. Sometimes,
verbalizing your fears can provide a new perspective and emotional support.
9. Educate Yourself:
 Learn more about the object or situation that triggers your fear. Sometimes,
understanding the fear can demystify it and make it more manageable.
10. Mindfulness and Meditation:
 Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help you stay present and manage
anxiety. These techniques encourage focusing on the present moment rather than
worrying about the future.
11. Set Realistic Goals:
 Set small, achievable goals related to overcoming your fear. Celebrate your successes,
no matter how small, to build confidence.
12. Professional Help:
 If your fear significantly impacts your daily life, consider seeking professional help.
Therapists and counselors can provide guidance and support in addressing and
overcoming fears.

Remember that overcoming fears is often a gradual process, and it's okay to progress at your own pace. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work through your fears.

By Tandy Hale, LCMHC, ART-BC, NCC

#FearlessJourney #ConquerYourFears #FearlessLiving #FacingFears #CourageousHeart #BeyondFear #EmbraceTheUnknown #FearlessMindset #OvercomingObstacles #BraveNewYou #EmpowermentQuest #DareToDreamBig #FearlessAdventure #FearNoMore #StrengthOverFear
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